When a Man Weeps

Black_man_cryingThere is something cleansing about tears especially when a man weeps over his sins.  Tears are natural and therefore, good for us.  That is why the LORD created us with tear-ducts.  I know a lot of people (men and women alike), think that it’s not very manly to weep or cry.  I used to think that too at one point, but not anymore.  The Bible says, “There is “a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance” (Ecclesiastes 3:4). So, it’s perfectly right for men to cry. In fact, I would go so far as to say that most of us men should cry more often than we do – and that when we do cry, we do so for the right reasons.

Men do weep for all kinds of reason.  Our hearts break sometimes because of emotional pain.  Sometimes it is physical pain.  At other times it’s financial pain.  Pain is almost always a factor when a man weeps.  When a man feels helpless, hurt or hedged-in with nowhere to turn, tears are often inevitable. But oh, what a blessed sight it is to see a man weep over because he has sinned against the LORD! When a man cries because he has sinned against the LORD and other people, that’s a beautiful sight!  It’s precious before the LORD! When a man cries not just because he is remorseful but because he is repentant and is seeking to be restored to God and those whom he may have offended, that pleases the LORD!   

Thomas Watson, the 17th Century, English Puritan wrote in his book, The Godly Man’s Picture:

Repenting tears are precious. God puts them in His bottle (Psa. 56:8). They are beautifying. A tear in the eye adorns more than a ring of the finger. Oil makes the face shine. (Psa. 104:15). Tears make the heart shine; tears are comforting. A sinner’s mirth turns to melancholy. A saint’s mourning turns to music. Repentance may be compared to myrrh, which though it is bitter to the taste, is comforting to the spirits. Repentance may be bitter to the fleshy part, but, it is most refreshing to the spiritual. Wax that melts is fit for the seal. A melting soul is fit to take the stamp of all heavenly blessing. Let us give Christ the water of our tears and He will give us the wine of His Blood!

One more thing about weeping on this side of heaven:  Most of the weeping that goes on here, is caused by sin (our own and other people’s sins).  We hurt other people and they hurt us.  Pain, sickness, death directly result from sin.  As long as we remain in this world, we will have to struggle with these things.  We will go through all kinds of pain which will break us and often cause us to weep. That’s only part of the bad news.  It gets worse.  The Bible talks about a group of people who will be thrown outside “into darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth” (Matthew 25:30) forever. These will be those who did not weep over their sins in brokenness and repentance while here on earth. That’s the really bad news.  I pray that you will not be one of them.

revelation-214But the good news is that those who weep now, especially those who weep over their sins, will experience eternal joy with God and Jesus Christ, our Savior, in heaven.  “Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4). For such people, the Bible says that God Himself “will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:4). I pray for you even as I pray for myself that God would grant to us the grace to weep tears of repentance because of our sins. May He give us all the grace to ask His forgiveness through the blood of His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ so that we may be welcomed into the eternal joy of our Master with all those who love Him!  Amen.